tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4014954143627998875.post6283503242577793988..comments2023-03-23T06:15:21.117-04:00Comments on Dry Drowning: Death Dream 2011Dry Drowninghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07859668459999066131noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4014954143627998875.post-73865226650436680702011-09-29T04:45:07.396-04:002011-09-29T04:45:07.396-04:00:(:(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4014954143627998875.post-72526954095036735882011-06-07T14:21:46.371-04:002011-06-07T14:21:46.371-04:00Dear Wanda,
Comparisons are usually dangerous, an...Dear Wanda,<br />Comparisons are usually dangerous, and most of the topics and concerns raised on this site are important, but I must confess to feeling some awkward inadequacy in comparing some of my own to the situation that you are apparently (?) describing.<br />Buddhist teachings repeat over and over the story of how Shakyamuni sent a grieving mother to search for a mustard seed from a household that had never known death. She couldn't find one and got the message. I can't argue with the message or the Buddha's wisdom here. Death and suffering are everywhere, and it seems perhaps the Buddha's challenge did help her find some peace. But it also seems worth reflecting on the fact that he himself never outlived a child, much less one born from his own body. It's a lot easier to tell the story than it is to be you.<br />Ken points out that "fairness" is essentially a child's notion. Fair enough. I can't argue with his wisdom there either. The notion won't heal pain or bring anyone back from death. But what monster wouldn't feel some child-like grief faced with such a situation? If the situation is not just a dream, I pray to understand your grief, knowing full well that's a prayer that can never really be granted to one who has not been you. I pray never to meditate myself into some state from which I could not share, however partially and inadequately, in your grief and the strength living with it has given you.<br />Your sons are very fortunate, and we are fortunate to have you writing here. Please share anything you feel called to share about your sons. All of you have accumulated much wisdom. Please share it with us if you can.<br />Your humble student,<br />- John O., June 5, 2011Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4014954143627998875.post-67059233505487350482011-06-07T14:20:39.509-04:002011-06-07T14:20:39.509-04:00Dear Wanda,
I just saw this and feel your pain ar...Dear Wanda,<br /><br />I just saw this and feel your pain around doing time on Earth after the loss of a child; and how time only comes into existence only when our children are born.<br /><br />Just today I told my teacher that I thought practice would take away that oppressive feeling around time passing, but instead have discovered it takes away everything else.<br /><br />And all we are left with is constant passing away.<br /><br />Diotima, June 2, 2011Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com